Compatibility assesses whether your relationship will survive the test of time. You and your partner may have a good relationship already and love each other, but you will face problems later on if you’re lacking in compatibility. You do not have to have to be similar in all these areas, but the more similarities you share might lead to a stronger relationship. Try answering the following questions to each topic to see if you are compatible.
1. Make a list of those situations where you find it really hard to have willpower.
2. Brainstorm for ways that you can start to feel more positive about demonstrating will power. For example, plan to reward yourself every time you do something you really didn’t want to do.
3. Break bigger, more challenging, tasks down into much smaller, and more achievable, tasks. Acknowledge each step in the right direction. Recognise that you’re making progress.
4. Decide to challenge any tendency towards procrastination. Decide that you can change if you take it slowly. Set daily, realistic goals for yourself. Decide to follow through with them – no matter what! If it helps, have someone you can be accountable to at the end of each day (or week).
5. Push yourself to keep taking the small steps. In time, making an effort will become a habit. Hang in there until it does.
6. Focus on the long term benefits of achieving your goal. Imagine what it will be like – how your life will be, and how you will feel when you reach your goal. Try to visualise it in detail.
Build on momentum is definitely a point that must also be added to the list. I feel that willpower is like pushing a boulder. Once it gets rolling, you just got to keep pushing it so it doesn’t stop.